Why You Need A Girls Night

Raise your hand if you are a wife, mother or a full on career woman who often finds herself just needing a break? Heck, what if you are all three! Charting patients, changing diapers, washing the mounds of laundry and dishes, kid’s practices, grocery shopping, meeting deadlines and everything else on that never ending to-do list. Life, while it’s amazing and fulfilling has tendencies to take a ghastly toll and while we may not realize it, a girls night is just the ticket to refuel your soul. Where you can go and simply have fun, spend time with other women you adore, have a glass of wine, laugh until you cry..or pee your pants and flat out, enjoy yourself or refill that cup that we always pour so freely from.

Who can honestly say that they make time for themselves now a days? I can honestly say that I did not make time for that until this year. I always talked about it but I never actually followed through with a plan. My excuse was pretty much always related to Mom Guilt, which by definition is the feeling of guilt, doubt, anxiousness or uncertainty experienced by mothers when they worry they’re failing or falling short of expectations in some way. My mom guilt was always a version surrounding the concept of letting someone else, even my husband..yes..my own husband, my children’s father take care of them. Not that he couldn’t take care of them, I just couldn’t let go of full responsibility. Even hiring a sitter was out of the question for the longest time. In my mind, my children were my responsibility, day and night. While they are, what I didn’t quite see was that I was beginning to slowly drown myself in motherhood.

My brother and sister-in-law probably don’t realize but they were honestly the ones who inspired me the most to make this a priority in my life. They take turns every few weeks and have a guys night/girls night. I always just looked at this rewarding night as if it was a major goal but something definitely out of my reach. Not that it wasn’t deserved or much needed but I saw it as something that I would just be able to enjoy some day.

So what was the paradigm shift? What made me decide that it was time to start treating myself? I can proudly say that the motivation came from listening to a lot of personal development, Jesus, podcasts, blogs and books. When I started grasping that life is in session..a light bulb went off and I started thinking to myself that I truly deserved some down time. My cup is always pouring into everyone and everything and yet I am the one riding on the back row of the struggle bus. I needed a time where I could relax and re-charge with a few friends, eat a dinner that I didn’t prepare, where I could eat with both of my hands( if you’re a mom, you totally feel this..) and not have to constantly argue with a tiny army that I created to sit down, be quiet, eat their food and wipe ketchup off their face. I do have a few adult friends who get a little messy but on nights like this, you are on your own, sister! I kid, I kid…maybe.

What’s even better about committing to this girls night? Your husband will have a new found respect and appreciation for you. He will see, ten fold, what you do on the daily. This speaks heights for all of my stay at home mama’s out there. He will see first hand all of the things that you put up with, all of the things that you do, are and how gracefully swift you rock this motherhood gig. Even though on even the best of days, it probably doesn’t feel like that. Let’s be real for a sec, motherhood, while it is so undeniably fulfilling in every facet of itself, it can be so overwhelming and exhausting.

So now, I prioritize this night. Sometimes it’s super last minute and other times, I plan days or weeks in advance. The first month, we decided to go eat boiled crawfish because, well..I’m a swamp queen and that’s what us swamp queens do. The next month, we decided about two hours in advance to meet at a bar and have a few drinks to unwind. And this month, I decided to host a movie night featuring the one and only, Rachel Hollis with her new movie, Made for More. Because, let’s face it ladies, WE WERE MADE FOR MORE!!!

Every girls night is different and different women are there every time but that’s the beauty of it. No hard feelings, no strings attached..just an evening for everyone to unwind and refill their cup so we can continue to give so freely like we all always do. I think the hardest concept I’ve had to work through is that it’s okay for me to do this. It’s okay to refuel. It’s okay to refresh yourself and remember who you were before you became a mommy. But since I’ve started, I have had a much easier time doing all the things. I can wife better, mom better, work my business better, friend better and even sweep my dang floors with a little pep in my step.

We as moms deserve this time. Make an effort to make it a priority. You won’t regret it.

AsherKate Boutique with Betsy Guidry

There’s a new boutique in town or at least in cyber land and I’m super excited to tell you all about it. It’s been one of my main go tos for the last few months. I have had a lot of people ask me about my clothes and where I shop from so I figured, blogging about it would make this easy for everyone! My best friend and stylist Betsy Guidry is who dresses me and has agreed to work with me on this, so I hope you enjoy!

Betsy Guidry is originally from the bootheel of Missouri. She moved to South Louisiana a little over 10 years ago and is where she currently resides with her husband and two small children. She is a Fashion Merchandiser,  Esthetician, Aveda trained Educator, Etsy Shop Owner and AsherKate Boutique Stylist. She enjoys playing outside with her little ones, loves coffee, reading and the beach!

What is AsherKate?

AsherKate is an online boutique specializing in women’s clothing, shoes and accessories. It launched in September 2018 and is headquartered in Katy, Texas. In addition to helping you express your style, AsherKate provides opportunities for personal success through their Stylist program. AsherKate is also committed to helping women, children and communities around the word by donating 5% of every order to a featured charity.

Why did you become a Stylist for AsherKate and what exactly do you do?

I have known Gina, the owner, since she lived in Lafayette and owned a popular boutique in town called Artesia. When I saw that she was launching an online boutique, I was very interested! Even more interested when I saw she was offering opportunities for women to work with her and represent AsherKate. As a work-from-home-mom who has been passionate about fashion and clothing for as long as I can remember, being an AK Stylist is my dream job!

As a Stylist, I help women find AsherKate clothing and accessories that work best for them, just like a personal stylist would. I have a Facebook based Insiders Group where I share new releases, style tips, outfit ideas, promotions, giveaways and more! I also just launched what I call “Betsy, Dress Me” -an opportunity to have complimentary styling session with me. You complete a form that I will send, which includes your preferences and budget and from there I will handpick styles that I feel will work best for you!

As a Senior Stylist, I also get to mentor and guide new Stylists for AsherKate Boutique.

What is your favorite AsherKate piece that you own?

That’s a hard one– I really do love them all! I definitely wear my Jeggings the most..so a tie between my distressed Presley Jeggings and our new Sanai White Fringe Top. I can’t resist the pull-on stretch of the Jeggings and the top is so trendy and comfortable!

What do we have to look forward to from AsherKate?

So much goodness! For Spring and Summer we have released a lot of versatile clothing style options. Sunglasses, sandals, handbags and a lot of beautiful jewelry. We will continue to see new arrivals bi-monthly– more seperates, athleisure, accesories and a few other surprises! 🙂

What is a style you think people should stop wearing?

I really feel like these days, anything goes. If you love it and it makes you feel good, wear it! If you’re uncomfortable in it and are worried about it, then it’s probably not the best choice for you! I probably need to stop wearing my high school and college sweatshirts from 15+ years ago..but aren’t those the comfiest?!

How do you like to use color?

I have to admit that I love the color black myself, but I am really working to branch out using color for myself. I like pairing color with a muted pattern and colored jeggings are a fun accent right now. A pop of colored fringe earrings is a favorite of mine.

What is the most fun part to being a Stylist?

I really enjoy helping other women look and feel their best! I love the personal styling aspect and getting to pick pieces specifically for my customer’s needs and purposes. I also love each time we have new releases, it’s so exciting to share!

What would you never wear?

Never say never, but I don’t think I would wear a matching jacket and pant wind-suit ever again.

Your daytime uniform?

If I’m working from home, I’m most definitely in workout leggings and a tank. If I’m out and about- skinny jeans and a fun top or a simple dress with slip-ons.

Describe your style in 3 words…

Classic, Casual and Chic.

I would like to thank Betsy for taking her time to help me put this together. I really hope that you guys enjoy this write up. Betsy is not only a really good friend of mine but she is always my main go to whenever I am having a panic attack in my closet. She makes shopping and getting dressed easy and fun. Any questions I have, she is always quick to respond and if she doesn’t have an answer, she finds one! If you would like to reach out to Betsy for a styling consultation, learn more about becoming a stylist or would like to shop around, her links are down below:

Email: Betsyg.akstylist@yahoo.com

Website: www.betsyguidry.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/484902122006631/?ref=share

Instagram: @betsy.guidry.maker.stylist

When I grow up…

The one huge question that probably resonates with everyone is the almighty ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’ I don’t really know if I had a solid answer for this growing up, I just knew I wanted to be happy and confident.

When I think about my childhood, I think about a lot of genuinely good times. Some of my favorites include my best friend and I playing in the woods until the sun was almost gone, making things in my dads wood shop with him, winning handstand competitions at Bela Karolyi’s gymnastic summer camps, talking on the air at my grandfathers radio station, riding around with my brother and his friends listening to “Gangsters Paradise” so loud my ear drums would vibrate long after we got out of the car and playing “chase” at church with my friends. Those are just a few of my favorites..I can continue writing this list for days.

Although I have an incredibly long list of amazingly happy memories..not all of my childhood was sunshine and rainbows. Just like any kid, I’m sure, we all start school and things change. Not all children are nice and all I can pray is that I instill a kind heart in my children so that they never inflict anyone with the kind of hurt that I had in school. Although, I know that at some point I will have to mend a broken heart or two.

I remember when I was in kindergarten, I used to take the bus to school. I was the first one on and the last one off. I would go back to sleep when I got on the bus and wake up when we got to school. One morning, I guess one of the older kids on the bus thought it would be funny to stick gum in my hair. I didn’t know until I got to school and I cried. The school ended up calling my mother to come try to get it out in the bathroom with toothpaste and peanut butter…and I still cried. That day, I earned the title as a cry baby and that name followed me until the day I graduated. I say I earned it because I cried…a lot.

Leading up to 3rd grade, I started wearing glasses and I spent the entire summer with my mom at my grandfathers house in South Louisiana and I basically ate REALLY GOOD the whole time I was there. Let’s just say that my glasses and my weight gain added to my really awesome cry baby resumé. Let’s not forget that the genes ran super strong for me to start a uni-brow very early in life. Que the facepalm.

I remember every year being incredibly trying but my 6th grade year really opened up my world for how awful kids can really be and also how school systems do not always do what they should do for their students. My mother picked me up at school that afternoon and immediately wanted to know what was wrong and what happened. This was the one time(besides the bubble gum incident) that I physically couldn’t hide what was wrong. I had scratches all over the sides of my face, some of them having broken the skin. I remember just wishing I could close my eyes and disappear because I just didn’t want to talk about it. I wanted it to go away. But, this wouldn’t go away and my persistent mother had to know what happened. And once again, I cried like a baby when I told her that several girls held me down in a bathroom while another used a toilet brush to scrub my face.

I would love to tell you that as a cheerleader, a top band student, a starter on the softball team, being a top student and having a popular football playing boyfriend that I had the perfect time and perfect life in High School. I will never tell you that my adolescence was perfect but I won’t tell you that it was absolutely horrible either. I tried really, really hard to deal with the hard times and I most definitely made the most of the good times. But..just as I did when I was five years old..I cried, a lot.

I didn’t tell you any of my stories so you would feel sorry for me or to get a rise out of you. I told you so that perhaps you could relate and understand that even though it appears like someone has it all or everything is so good..that’s sometimes very far from the truth. I want you to know where my heart sits with my life, my family and my children.

I wanted to be several things when I grew up but ultimately, I just knew I wanted to be happy. I wanted to overcome all of the things that I believed shaped me into who I was. I wanted more. I wanted better. What I didn’t know is that my mind is more powerful than I thought it was.

 “It hurts but that’s all it does. The most difficult part of the training is training your mind.  You build calluses on your feet to endure the road. You built calluses on your mind to endure the pain. There’s only one way to do that. You have to get out there and run.” -David Goggins

Take Action.

It wasn’t until very recently that I truly grasped that I was in charge and that no one was going to do this for me. I don’t know exactly what I had pictured but I guess I thought if I prayed enough that one day I would just wake up and I would just be happy. That’s NOT how it works. You don’t just wake up and everything is hunky dory. It requires a lot of daily effort and more than just praying. If you pray for something, you have to act on that prayer. God will open doors for you but unless you take a step towards entering that door then the door will just continue to be open and you’ll just be standing there..or maybe it will close before you decide to act.

Your life is on you. Just like my life is on me. I will not pretend like my life is perfect now, because that is so far from the truth, I am giggling as I type this. But I can tell you that my self discovery, self love and personal development journey has been the most invigorating and life altering experience I have ever had in my entire life. I know that a lot of the things that have happened in my life could absolutely break a person and I can’t count how many people have told me this. I know that a lot of my childhood and High School experiences were not all that great but they also helped shape me into who I am today. There’s something very powerful about being able to use what most people would use an excuse as fuel for your fire.

Stop making excuses. For yourself and for other people.

Learning to stop making excuses will empower you more than you could ever realize. A lot of the times we say,” Well, this happened so this is why I am the way I am” and that’s the end of it. We don’t move forward passed that point because we decide that there’s a period at the end of the sentence instead of a comma.. We decide that there is this permanent barrier there that we aren’t supposed to cross..but it’s so far from the truth. The comeback can be so powerful if you stop drowning yourself in the excuses you keep making. If it is important to you then you will find a way to make it happen, if it’s not, then you’ll make excuses. And don’t make excuses for the people in your life either, worry about yourself and how you want to be treated. Leave other people to deal with themselves. And if those people are in your way of your ambitions, do them and yourself a favor..boot them.

You are worth so much more.

It all begins and ends in your mind. When you decide that you are worth so much more than the setbacks you have been given, the shift happens. You begin to take control of your life situations when you put your well being first. I think as a mom, this particular nugget was incredibly difficult for me to process. As a wife, mother and homemaker, my whole world revolves around being a caregiver for my husband, children and home. And while that is still my role as a stay at home mother, I’ve learned to create healthy boundaries with it along with my relationships outside of my home. It’s been trying at times but so empowering. When you realize just how in control you can be, a lot of things change and for the better. Life stops happening to you, it starts happening for you. And when curve balls get thrown in your way, your mind set is well equipped to handle the play. And not only that, when you start living with your best self present, everything else has a way of being easier to handle. The pressure is off by trying to please everyone all the time. You see, I live for my family, no doubt..however one of my main struggles has been pouring from an undeniably empty cup. When I decided I wanted more for myself, I began shifting things that filled my cup. Such as girls nights once a month, gym time or even trips every few weeks to get my nails done to give a few examples. Little things like that that help me refuel. I can better take care of my family and do all the things once I am taken care of.

The truth is, I never felt popular or like I fit in growing up even though I tried with ever fiber of my being. I had this idea in my head that if I fit in with the in crowd then my problems would stop. If my name had a space on the roster where all of the popular kids names were, I would suddenly just find peace and happiness. It never happened like that. When it came time for me to decide what I wanted to be when I grew up, sure, a few things that I loved came to mind and I pursued them..but none of them are as fulfilling as learning how to become who I am today. If I had known then what I know now, I wouldn’t have cared about fitting in or any of that. I would have focused on living my absolute best life.

I think about my girls and how I felt when I was in school. I’ve continued to see myself as the same timid little girl who’s anxiety level was through the roof. And ultimately, who thought that all of those things just broke her as a human being. I want my girls to know that they can be strong and do better than I did. And in order for them to learn it, they have to see it. They have to see a strong mama. I have to be strong for them..and myself. It’s a learned behavior and I want them to know from the beginning just how enough they are. I want them to know that experiences they have in their life, don’t have to define who they are. Unlike their mama, they don’t have to be a cry baby.

 

Laser SkinCare of Louisiana

It’s no secret that I am a thirty something year old mama. I’ve literally been pregnant and/or breastfeeding for the last five years, even though it feels like it’s been longer than that. Before that, my youth consisted of basically getting all of the sleep and sun-kissed skin that I am certainly missing out on now. Did you even live in the 2000’s if you didn’t pay monthly fees to live in the tanning beds? Were you even doing it right if you didn’t have the little kissy lips , heart or a playboy bunny tan line along your panty line? Let’s not forget about all of those tanning accelerators that made you feel like your skin was going to explode at any moment. I can’t count how many times I nearly baked myself to death in a tanning bed or laying pool side. Being tan was in and what can I say..I was with the times.

Being a mama to two little angels who have each nursed for almost two years each and also hate sleep, being 30 and only in the last few years taken up on a good skincare routine have all caught up with me. While I am happy with my skin and over all appearance, I sometimes find myself looking like I feel. Tired and worn out…kinda like the perfect baseball glove but not exactly the look I’m going for or at all really.

Some of you may know this but you are super limited to the things you are allowed to do while pregnant or breastfeeding. I’ve been restricted on what all I could do, use and take for forever..until a few weeks ago when I finally got my two year old to stop nursing. Que the hallelujah choir! To celebrate not breastfeeding anymore, I contacted an old friend of mine who works at Laser SkinCare of Louisiana. I wasn’t exactly sure what I wanted to do or what my skin really needed so I sent her a few pictures of my skin and let her decide what I could benefit from the most.

We landed on a procedure called an IPL which is Intense Pulsed Light or also known as a photo-facial. It’s a type of light therapy that’s used for treating and tightening wrinkles or fine lines, sun damage, skin pigmentation, freckles, birth marks, varicose veins and age spots. With each pulse, a bright light passes through the uppermost layer of skin called the epidermis. It draws out the pigment producing cells and disperses the uneven pigment. This procedure can be done anywhere on the body but is most popularly done on the face. It’s gentle yet effective and a long-lasting solution with zero down time.

I was SO excited to try this procedure. Like I said, I’ve developed a lot of freckling over the years from sun damage and least we forget that being pregnant can sometimes lead to developing hyper-pigmentation or “pregnancy mask.” And then Jessica introduced me to this little machine called a Visia. It captures multi-spectral photos of your face. It examines your complexion for enlarged pores, fine lines, wrinkles, rough texture, evidence of bacteria, UV spots from overexposure to the sun and pigment changes in the skin. This sorcery completely blew my mind!

I set my face inside of the Visia, it rotated around my face and began taking photos. When I looked at the screen on the side I was in complete awe at the amount of damage I have on my skin! But sadly, I believed it. Like I said, I knew I didn’t take the best care of my skin for the longest time.

From this point, we moved to the treatment room where I’d be doing the IPL. The treatment bed was super comfortable, I think they actually call it the “Cadillac.” Jessica began by cleansing my skin and prepping it with ultrasound gel for the procedure. I was actually pretty nervous that this was going to hurt but it honestly wasn’t bad at all. No worse than being lightly popped with a rubber band and even that’s over exaggerating.

We focused on my more prominent freckles for my first appointment. Sometimes it only takes 1-2 treatments and other times it needs more than that to eliminate all of the damage. It really just depends on your skin and the frequency used on the machine.

Over the past week I have watched a few places on my face develop into darker spots and begin to simply flake off. Some spots are still a little dark after seven days but I’m confident they’ll be following suit in the days to come. I’ve also noticed that my complexion is brighter and more even in general!

Photo on the left is the first morning after the procedure. Photo on the right is seven days after procedure.

Laser SkinCare of Louisiana offers a variety of procedures and treatments. Dr. Duplechain and his amazing staff are driven towards providing you with only the best of services and helping you fall in love with the skin you’re in. Call today(337-237-1116) to get started and ask about the special of the month that I received or upcoming specials!

Disclosure: This post is sponsored by the office of Dr. J. Kevin Duplechain

 

March Favorites: Skincare, Makeup & Haircare.

I am a product junkie.

There, I said it. The first step is admitting it right? For those of you that know me really well, you know that I am a true product junkie. You name it, more than likely I have used it at some point or another. I even held a VIB Rouge status once upon a time at Sephora. Am I proud of that? I don’t know..maybe; I’ll never tell. While I have been a Beauty Guide for LimeLife by Alcone for a little over two years now, I still have a few other brands that carry items that I like to call “must-haves” and I will be sharing those as well as my favorite LimeLife products. Don’t use skincare or makeup? Don’t click off of here too soon, this isn’t just about those two things. I’m going to tell you about what products I love, what they do and where you can find them.

This is in no way sponsered or organized by Sephora, LimeLife by Alcone, Jentry Kelley Cosmetics, Wella, Peter Thomas Roth, Kristen Ess or Target. This is just a short list of some of my favorites and my reviews; ENJOY!
If you would like to try any LimeLife By Alcone products you can reach me via the Get In Touch button at the top of the page or get in touch with your favorite beauty guide to start learning about all of the amazing products!

But first, skin care.

It’s going to be hard not to name every single product I love so I will try to keep this short and sweet.

One of the first products that I absolutely cannot live without is the Peter Thomas Roth FIRMX Peeling Gel. This is a Sephora find from years ago. It’s good for all skin types; it removes and sweeps away the dead skin on your face. You can literally feel the dead skin lifting from your face as you manually exfoliate. I typically use this once or twice a month because I still like to use Bamboo Renew or Skin Polish by LimeLife in between. And least we forget, I like to shave my face too. Between all of this, my face is smoother than my kids booties.

My next skincare favorite is without at doubt, One Drop Wonder by LimeLife by Alcone. It’s made from 100% cold pressed pomifera oil and is exclusive to LimeLife as a skincare product.  It’s chemical free, UV protective, high in anti-oxidants and Omega-6. This product is good for so many things:

Anti-bacterial, Anti-fungal, Anti-microbial and Anti-viral

Helps with skin ailments such as eczema, rosacea, acne, psoriasis, dermatitis, spider veins, varicose veins, bruising, stretch marks, blisters, cold sores, staph, shingles, ulcers, bug bites, cuts, burns, diaper rash, scars, sun spots and more.

Not only do I love it for my skin but I love it for the girls too. My oldest daughter is super sensitive to mosquito bites and this is the only product that actually works in healing them and quickly. Add Forty Cure Cream to the mix and you’ve got a magical concoction.

The last set of products I will list here are from the new Midnight Oil Collection. It’s a cleanser and a serum by LimeLife as well and its antioxidant-rich with Marula Oil and Millet Seed extract (yes, I know; I’m rattling your head off about LimeLife…but it’s SO GOOD y’all!) These two products work together to heal and improve your skins radiance and illuminate your complexion while you sleep.

I was super skeptical of, specifically, the cleanser at first when I started using these. I’ve always used a cleanser that’s sudsy my entire life so there was definitely a mental barrier there telling me this just wasn’t going to do the job. What I really should have done was take some before, during and after photos of my skin to monitor changes because within a few short weeks of using this collection along with my other skincare routine, I started getting compliments everywhere I turned! People were telling me that my skin was glowing and my complexion looked so good! Best part? I didn’t have makeup on. My own opinion of myself without make up is that I look somewhere between the Crypt Keeper and a Billy Goat so this has been a huge confidence boost that all these people were giving me. And this set of products were my only change up!

Let your hair do the talking.

I have quite a few hair favorites and to be honest, I’m not really sure where to begin! Perhaps I should start off with my hair type because, obviously, I don’t want you to run straight to the store or the world wide web and start shopping for the same things I love if they’re not going to work for your hair type. My hair is crazy curly, wavy and has frizz ball tendencies. I have a medium type hair texture, which means it’s not fine but it’s not coarse either. It’s riiiight in between the two. It’s relatively healthy also. While I still color it, I don’t bleach very often, I’ve kind of grown fond of my dark roots.

One of my favorite hair products is the Wella Elements Leave In Conditioning Spray. Not only does it smell amazing but its basically formulated with the same milk and honey that flows in the Heavens. Directly from the Wella website, it’s a paraben free leave in dual-phase spray that cares and protects hair from day to day stress and delivers a gentle hold. I LOVE this product because it smooths my hair out and makes it super easy to de-tangle mine and my girls crazy curly hair. It’s not heavy either! Win/Win! You can find this on Amazon or you can probably ask you hairstylist to order some for you!

Next, I love the Kristen Ess line from Target. My hairstylist friends are now rolling their eyes at me, I can feel it. Specifically, I love the Reviving Dry Shampoo and the Dry Finish Working Texture Spray. The Dry Shampoo features a translucent powder base and is infused with vitamin c. It’s not overly heavy but it definitely does the job and is not a bad price point either. The texture spray is exactly that but it’s not the kind that gives a hard or sticky hold. It’s very light but effective! I always use the texture spray after I curl my hair and without fail, it always looks amazing! One of the other reasons why I like this line, it’s very affordable when your budget is tight! Even the shampoo and conditioner work really well!

Makeup is art. Beauty is spirit.

This is probably my favorite part of this entire write up. Makeup is my life y’all. People think it’s just because I’m girly and I like girly things. What they don’t know is that makeup is an outlet for me. For years, it’s been a way to hide how I really felt inside. If nobody could see in, if I could cover up my past and my insecurities and raw emotions with a little concealer and lipstick, if I could avoid people asking me if I was okay or feeling well..then my makeup did it’s job for the day. I used makeup as an art source to conceal all of my deepest and darkest feelings.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I have worked through my troubles and I don’t actually wear makeup everyday anymore. It’s been a long process of self development and learning how to love myself and my life that has truly transformed me. I’m not afraid to let people see the real me, flaws and all. The other way was just as exhausting as depression was so I encourage you, if you are on the same road as I was, please..please work on yourself.  You won’t regret it. Makeup is a beautiful tool to conceal those inner and outer flaws but if you can tackle and concur those things, your beauty will be more than just a mask.

One of the first products I want to go over is foundation. If it’s on the market, I have probably used it. Powders, cremes, liquids, sticks, cc’s & bb’s as well as tinted moisturizers. All brands, from drug stores to high end department stores. There are several out there that are really, really good. But the true test of it all was in the hot summer heat in Louisiana. If you’re from here or have been here you know that the kind of hot we have doesn’t just stop at temperature. You know that the kind of heat we have is the kind where as soon as you walk outside, you are immediately pitting and sweating from every God given surface and crease of your body. It’s not a dry hot, it’s a wet hot. Have you ever been in a steam room? That’s Louisiana. You MELT. So despite all of these foundations being good or high end, they would melt too! By lunch(actually before..), I would look like a fresh bowl of queso at my favorite restaurant. And the same would apply to my models or clients who had to be out in the heat too, despite primers or setting powders or sprays. I’m one particular companies only trusted hair and makeup artist and every summer, we do shoots in New Orleans.  Every single year, I was constantly touching up the models makeup because she would literally be dripping all over The Big Easy. It was super frustrating. I like to think that I can do amazing work but its hard to showcase it when your tools don’t perform as they promise in weather conditions hotter than hades. When I decided to join LimeLife, it had everything to do with the foundation. It’s a wax based, paraben free and highly pigmented foundation and truly sets and stays in place with the help of the primer and setting products. The following year for that photo shoot, I told the owner I was switching up my entire makeup line and using all LimeLife. I think he was super skeptical and nervous just because it’s a change and obviously, the makeup REALLY matters. But y’all, my models makeup never melted. She sweated but her makeup never moved. We were in abandoned warehouses with no air conditioning in the middle of the summer and the only time I had to touch up the makeup was when we changed lip colors. If that doesn’t speak heights, I don’t know what does.

LimeLife’s Foundation is the bees knees, hands down. It’s waxed based, highly pigmented and paraben free. It’s build-able also. You can use a little and get light coverage and you can build on top of that to achieve full coverage. You can even mix it with some Dew Date or Skin Therapy moisturizers and transform it into a tinted moisturizer or bb cream. Pair the foundation with their Primer, Translucent Powder and Setting Spray and your base face is bullet proof!

One of my next favorites is by Jentry Kelley Cosmetics. I had the opportunity to meet her once a few years ago. She is so beautiful, inspiring and hilarious. She’s out of Houston, Texas so if you ever find yourself needing a makeover while you’re in the area, be sure to reach out to her office to schedule an appointment. She and her team of gorgeous women will get you set up. You won’t be disappointed! She has formulated and created a full line of some of the highest quality makeup and skin care products also! One product in particular that I love from her line is the Brow Lift-Light. I love this stuff because it highlights matte under the brow to give off a natural look. It will really help illuminate if you want to use a light shimmery eye shadow as well. This product is to be applied to the outer 2/3 of the underside of the brow area to give the illusion of a brow lift. I love this stuff! Not to mention, a little goes a long way so this little product lasts forever. Side note- if you ever decide to check out her book, Hooker to Looker, you will find a photo of me in there that I submitted as a makeup fail before I really knew what I was doing…facepalm. We all start somewhere!

Lastly, the holy grail of lipsticks..the Enduring Lip Colors. I’ve used multiple brand name dry matte lipsticks and none of them stay as good as these. The color pay off is unreal and they don’t make your lips appear or feel chapped. I know you know what I mean when I say that. They apply buttery and cure into a matte finish. If you want to speed up the process you can dust some translucent powder on top of them and voila, it’s cured! I used to be all about a moisturizing lipstick that felt like a chap-stick on my lips but I guess turning into a mama of two, I don’t have all the time in the world to keep re-touching my lips all day so running to one of the Enduring Lip Colors or Liners has turned into my new jam. After all, I love easy!