We have all been there. We all have our on scenario’s played out in our minds of things that have happened in the past and hurt us. Let’s be honest for a minute, those situations are really hard to let go sometimes, right?
I’m going to go over a few reasons why I think forgiveness should be a top priority even if you got an empty apology or even worse..no apology at all.
You will never move forward.
You will forever be stuck in the past if you cannot let go what happened to you. Negativity can eat you alive if you allow it. Life will happen regardless and we can’t control the things that happen but we can control how we react to it. This applies to the things people say and do to you too. Let it go and grow through it. Move on, your future awaits you.
Learn from your experience.
Something powerful to remember is that you have the ability to grasp just the kind of person you don’t want to be or behavior you don’t want to posses. The pain and heartache that others put you through can be a staple in your journey towards being a better person. If you are anything like me, I sometimes replay situations over and over in my head sometimes trying to figure out how I might have been able to do something differently to produce a different outcome. Hello, anxiety! Am I right? I exhaust myself and I’m sure you know exactly what I am talking about. It’s such a fruitless behavior. Instead, concentrate on what you learned and let that carry you.
God forgives us..
We are all forgiven daily, why can’t we offer the same to others? In fact, God commands that we forgive and let go of resentment. Matthew 6:15 says,” If you refuse to forgive others, you’ll be robbing yourself of your heavenly father’s forgiveness.” Depending on where you stand with your relationship with God, maybe this speaks life to you. If not, carry on to the next paragraph.
Do it for yourself.
I’ve learned over the years that despite the pain people have knowingly or unknowingly put on my shoulders, I have to let it go. Forgiveness is a choice, simply put. If your hurt were rocks and you carried those rocks around in a bag over your shoulder, how much weight would you be toting around? Is your bag heavy or are you even carrying a bag? If it’s too heavy, put it down and don’t pick it back up. If you genuinely want that weight lifted, you have to do it for yourself. You deserve peace.
Forgive them anyway.
Not everyone will apologize and you shouldn’t wait around to hear those two little words either. When someone is not sorry for what they have done to you, it’s their problem not yours..unless you choose for it to be. You have to love yourself enough to let it go and move on. You aren’t responsible for carrying their burdens on your shoulders. I like to remind myself that hurt people often hurt people. They have their own inner demons to work with and sometimes it’s important to give them grace where they need it. Respectfully and with new boundaries.
Shed new light.
In such times, you can learn and experience things in new ways. You can establish boundaries for what kind of relationships you expect from people you associate yourself with. Current, old and new. People are ever evolving, perhaps if someones time card in your life has expired…then it’s time to move forward. The same applies the other way around. We are all on a journey, sometimes we travel together and other times we all branch off at the T and go in different directions. And it’s okay as long as you’re okay with it. Only you can answer to that, not me and not anyone else.
Forgiving and forgetting is easier said than done. I get it. I have lived it. We have all experienced it in some way, shape or form. The kicker is how we respond to these situations when they happen. I think it’s important to remember that it’s okay to be angry first. It’s only human. But just remember, that anger might just warrant an apology from your end if you aren’t careful. And it’s okay to take the time you need to heal. There is no such thing as crunch time when it comes to healing.
Now that I have permanently put this song in your head for the rest of the day, let me tell you about the best facial I have ever gotten in my entire life. Yes, I have gotten many in my lifetime..way more than I can count but this is undoubtedly my favorite.
This facial is called the OxyGeneo. Also known as a Super Facial, hence my silly title. It will literally improve the tone and texture of your skin within one treatment and the best part is, there is zero downtime! This procedure takes all of about 30 minutes and is suitable for all skin tones and types. I actually had a hormonal break out on my chin when I did this facial. Don’t you just love when your body wants to remind you that the time of the month is upon you? Like, gee thanks lady parts, I’ve only been doing for 18 years but thanks for the reminder! Insert eye roll..
Anyways..my pizza chin had no match for the GeneO+. You’ll see for yourself before the end of this post.
What happens during a Super Facial:
The type of exfoliation you can expect will be similar to a microdermabrasion. A hydrating gel is applied to the skin and a tool will be used to remove the uppermost layer of dead skin cells, smooth and renew a fresh canvas of skin to prepare it for receiving active nutrients. If you’ve ever been licked by a cat, the sensation of this exfoliation tool is pretty similar to that..and it kind of sounds like a cat purring too.
For this step, a second layer of hydrating mask is applied and the GeneO+ tool is used again but this time it is used to massage in a ton of moisture in the skin. It will increase blood flow and the skins metabolism of nutrients to the skin.
3. Infuse (Ultrasound)
This last step really seals the deal. The final layer of hydrating mask will be applied to the face and the GeneO+ tool is used again. A chemical reaction happens between the mask and the tool used and little oxygen bubbles will begin gently bursting on the skin sending oxygen rich blood to the area being worked on. This isn’t painful at all, pinky swear.
In a nut shell, this is incredibly nutritious to not only the surface of the skin but deeply below the surface as well. I am so not a science person and I know this all sounds super crazy but if you have ever had an ultrasound done, the sensation is similar. It just feels like a cool sensation gliding along the skin. This step actually stimulates collagen so it helps plump the skin up.
Take a look at the before and after photo. I am completely blown away at just how much it changed my entire complexion in such a short amount of time. I cannot wait to schedule my next one, I hope to start getting these regularly! Speaking of, you can actually receive these facials about every 4-6 weeks. This treatment is your new best friend if you are looking for a quick, painless but highly effective facial. It will completely smooth out your skin texture, your fine lines and wrinkles will quickly be softened, your skin will be tight and firm in all the right places and undoubtedly the most hydrated and healthy its ever been! I can see how this facial would be crazy beneficial before any kind of event, photos of any kind or hey, even a Mardi Gras Ball!
You can easily visit Laser Skin Care of Louisiana’s website to learn more about this treatment as well as all the other services they offer or give them a call at 337-237-1116 to schedule your appointment. Click here for new patient inquiries.
If you need a place to completely disconnect from everything and re-center yourself, reconnect with your spouse and get some rest..this read will be such a treat for you! My husband and I visited Boltfarm Tree Houses near Charleston, South Carolina. It’s tucked about 30 minutes away from the city in a secluded area just off of the water. There are so many beautiful oak trees towering over the grounds that you lose count. You truly get lost in how serene it is, which is exactly what my husband and I needed.
Nick and I did the math while sitting on the deck at the treehouse..so between my husband being a Lafayette Firefighter and owning and operating his own Dirt Contracting business, he works roughly 102 hours per week. Guys..there’s 168 hours in a full week! That’s insane right? And as for me..well, I’m a full time mama, blogger, influencer and beauty guide. So if there’s only 168 hours in a week, that basically means I work at least 1,714 hours a week. However, I have the ability to juggle all of my responsibilities but I can always count on there being zero breaks when it comes to the girls. Even when they should be sleeping, they don’t. Long story short, my oldest barely believes in naps anymore and my youngest is the most nocturnal little being I’ve ever known. Not the good kind of non-sleeper either. Moms, you know what I’m talking about. It gets rough sometimes but I manage to find the beauty in between. I like to think she’s the one who will teach me patience. I guess we can call this a “blesson.”
The ability to view a lesson as a blessing..
Needless to say, my husband and I desperately needed a break. We didn’t want the kind of vacation where we were on the go constantly with an itinerary. We wanted to be able to sleep in, relax and essentially do nothing since we are always doing something! I don’t know how the treehouse could have been anymore perfect. Tori and Seth Bolt poured their heart and souls into these treehouses. Every detail was so well thought out and didn’t go unnoticed on our part.
As soon as we arrived, we drove up on the most beautiful iron gate in the shape of all of the oak trees you see covering the entire treehouse farm. We drove up to The Honeymoon Treehouse and were greeted by Jared who is the General Manager of Boltfarm Treehouses. He gave us a quick tour of the treehouse we were staying in, explained all there was to do and encouraged us to unplug and enjoy each other and our time there. Afterwards, we swung on the hanging chairs on the balcony of our treehouse and just marveled the beautiful grounds and all that the treehouse had to offer.
The Honeymoon Treehouse featured a copper bathtub on a platform in the main room. The back wall in front of the bed was covered top to bottom with charming antique mirrors. The bed was probably one of the most comfortable beds we have ever slept on. When it comes time for us to replace our own mattress, we will probably be ordering the same Sleepy mattress with a pillow top like they used. On the side was the kitchen area. It was finished with an above counter copper sink, a miniature retro style refrigerator hidden behind the stained wood cabinetry and a dining area for two complete with an antique China set. Let’s not forget the old style record player complete with a basket full of old records to play, adult coloring books, pillows to sit for meditation and prayer, a legit picnic basket filled with everything an outside picnic would ever need and a little fireplace. Sounds like a dream right? That’s just inside the treehouse, that’s not counting the amenities outdoors!
Outside there was a gorgeous view of the water with oak trees giving the perfect amount of shade. Double bicycles, outside grill, pizza oven, jacuzzi, fire pit fit for snuggles and s’mores, outdoor shower and screened in room with a swinging bed complete with a screen and projector to play movies. Don’t all of these things just sound like heaven?
Every single thing I named made the Treehouse every bit of the experience we were promised. But every ounce of alone time, relaxation, peace and quiet with my husband was the best part of all. It was exactly what we needed in our 10th season of marriage. The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 4:18,
So we fix our eyes not on what is seen but what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary but what is unseen is eternal.
I felt this verse fit perfectly for everything I wanted to end with. Everything was serene and absolutely perfect at the tree house and we are literally chomping at the bit to plan our next stay. But it wasn’t just beautiful scenery that we enjoyed, it wasn’t just the quiet time we needed and it wasn’t just the opportunity to be the big kids we know we are at heart; it was the unseen that sparked magic because of the seen. Does that resonate? I think we can all agree that life happens every single day and we all fall short in allowing it to get in the way of the things that mean the most to us. Making time for your partner and the things that matter most to you will be one of the greatest investments you can make in your relationship. God and each other. I think the best love story is to be able to fall in love with the same person over and over again.
Being able to be with my husband where he was only my husband for a few days was bliss. I’m sure he would agree the opposite for me. We could just be our true selves for a few days with zero responsibilities except pouring ourselves into each other and reconnecting on a level that we haven’t been able to in years. It’s truly amazing how doing nothing is absolutely everything you could possibly need. We swung outside and enjoyed the views, took naps on the swinging bed outside, we showered outside during the daytime and nighttime under the moon and starts, we listened to Calming Guitar Playlist on Pandora; I highly recommend that soothing playlist by the way. I have listened to it every day since we have returned. It almost as if I was able to bring the tree house experience home with me. Not to mention, growing up as a musicians daughter, my father was always playing his acoustic guitar at random times throughout the day. It was an enjoyable part of my childhood. This kind of music is medicine for the soul. We also made our own pizza, we roasted s’mores, rode the double bicycles, drank wine, walked down the lane full of oak trees and got to see lightening bugs for the first time since each of us were children. That may seem like nothing but it was truly a magical moment for me, at least. We took the time to visit Charleston one afternoon and had lunch at a tavern that was downtown. Which was incredible by the way.
Writing all of these things and telling you how insanely mind blowing it all was just brings me back. Even though it was just a few short weeks ago, the thought of being there and what it did for my heart and soul has stuck with me. Like the unseen I mentioned before, it wasn’t just an experience, it was purifying and healing. I will never forget what that trip did for me and I cannot wait till we go back. Matter of fact, if you’d like to mention that I recommended BoltFarm Treehouses to you when you book your stay, you will be upgraded to a complimentary VIP experience..and We will be too upon our next stay!
They say diamonds are a girls best friend..and then Botox and Juvederm happened.
I can finally say that I am the proud owner of a smoother forehead and some full, even lips. If you know me personally and you’re like everyone else who already knows..yes, I got injections. Yes, I know I didn’t need it but I wanted it. I’ll dissect that a little bit by telling you that in High School, I was the back spot on the cheer leading squad. One day when the flyer was doing a liberty, she lost balance, fell and I got kicked in the lip..since then, I have had a lot of scar tissue on the left side of my bottom lip. With that said, my lip appeared much plumper on the bottom left while the rest of my lips were thin, uneven and less full. My forehead and crow’s feet..that’s just the result of sun exposure, age, collagen breakdown and more than likely, hormones. Here are a couple of before photos so you can see what I was working with.
It really isn’t that bad but let’s be honest, we are all our own worst critics and it was definitely something that bothered me! So, I went in for a consultation at Dr. Duplechain’s office next to Laser Skin Care of Louisiana. We talked about my skin and my concerns. I will not lie to you for one minute, I was so nervous. He will more than likely remember me as the lady who has sweaty palms because I was literally sweating bullets when I first arrived. There is no one in the world more afraid of needles than I am. He and his staff made me feel incredibly comfortable and confident about the procedure. We began by taking a few different photos of my face in different positions. I scrunched my forehead, opened my eyes and lifted my eyebrows as high as I could, smiled and frowned. Ultimately, the idea behind doing this was to monitor the changes in my skin and to see where majority of my existing expression lines and wrinkles were. We decided that we would do a few units of Botox in my forehead and a some of a syringe of Juvederm into my lips to even them out. So the next step after that was to numb my face in preparation for those needles..que the sweaty palms again.
The Nurse then applied topical anesthetic to my forehead, between my hairline and my eyes and my lips for about 10 minutes. It was a really interesting sensation! Dr. Duplechain returned and he further explained the structure of the face, what muscles did what and what he recommended for the characteristics of my face, which were to ultimately smooth my forehead, smooth out my crows feet and even out my lips. My main fear that I expressed that I didn’t want to end up on Botched or look too plastic. Dr. Duplechain was incredible at calming my nerves and assuring me that he would address my concerns without over doing it. One of the things he prides himself in, is his work. One of the things he said to me was that he would never allow me or any of his clients to leave the office looking unnatural, that’s not his goal.
The first injections were done on my forehead and on the temple area with Botox. To be honest, I could tell he was poking me but I felt zero pain. Which is crazy because I am a total pansy when it comes to pain. Not to mention, the needle is super small but he worked quickly, efficiently and even gave me a few breaks in between to breathe. The concept behind Botox is actually quite intriguing. It works by temporarily relaxing the muscles that contribute to fine lines and wrinkles. By keeping those muscles relaxed, wrinkles do not form. This was important to me because my fine lines were beginning to bother me in general, not to mention, it doesn’t matter what brand of makeup I wear or what steps I take to eliminate the problem..it always settles into the creases.
Next up was lips. Now, before I dive into this..anyone else a cheek biter? No..just me? It’s a horrible habit I have had..honestly for as long as I can remember. So, with that said, I have smile lines leading from my nose to the outside corners of my mouth, the left side being a little more superficial than the right. The goal wasn’t to eliminate the line but to just smooth it out some. This was definitely the most painful part of the entire procedure. I wouldn’t call it downright pain but I did have to take more breaks and breathe through it. What’s great about Juvederm is that it actually has a numbing agent in it. So not only are your lips numb from the outside, but the product being injected numbs as it goes inside. I only had one injection site that I thought I might actually levitate from the chair but I braved it out. Juvederm is perfect for filling lines and wrinkles on the face, adding volume to the cheeks, chin and under-eye area, adding fullness or shape to the lips or correcting your nasolabial folds( laugh lines or in my case, those “cheek chewing” lines.)
I felt so rejuvenated after my appointment. I’ve never had injections before so this was something completely foreign to me. Just looking in the mirror after we finished to see my lips even literally choked me up. The Botox would take up to five days to relax the muscles in my forehead, by day four, I was already starting to see it! Just compare the top collage to this one, it’s insane just how much change I have seen in my face in just a week!
Dr. Duplechain’s office is located by Lafayette Surgical Specialty Hospital in Lafayette, Louisiana. He is one hundred percent committed to his patients satisfaction. Not only does he have decades of experience but he is also a part of the National Education Faculty for Allergan injectables, including Botox and Juvederm, and he frequently lectures nationally and internationally. If you’ve had injections on the brain, you should definitely give Laser Skincare a call at (337) 456-3282.
Disclosure: This post is sponsored by the office of Dr. J. Kevin Duplechain
Raise your hand if you are a wife, mother or a full on career woman who often finds herself just needing a break? Heck, what if you are all three! Charting patients, changing diapers, washing the mounds of laundry and dishes, kid’s practices, grocery shopping, meeting deadlines and everything else on that never ending to-do list. Life, while it’s amazing and fulfilling has tendencies to take a ghastly toll and while we may not realize it, a girls night is just the ticket to refuel your soul. Where you can go and simply have fun, spend time with other women you adore, have a glass of wine, laugh until you cry..or pee your pants and flat out, enjoy yourself or refill that cup that we always pour so freely from.
Who can honestly say that they make time for themselves now a days? I can honestly say that I did not make time for that until this year. I always talked about it but I never actually followed through with a plan. My excuse was pretty much always related to Mom Guilt, which by definition is the feeling of guilt, doubt, anxiousness or uncertainty experienced by mothers when they worry they’re failing or falling short of expectations in some way. My mom guilt was always a version surrounding the concept of letting someone else, even my husband..yes..my own husband, my children’s father take care of them. Not that he couldn’t take care of them, I just couldn’t let go of full responsibility. Even hiring a sitter was out of the question for the longest time. In my mind, my children were my responsibility, day and night. While they are, what I didn’t quite see was that I was beginning to slowly drown myself in motherhood.
My brother and sister-in-law probably don’t realize but they were honestly the ones who inspired me the most to make this a priority in my life. They take turns every few weeks and have a guys night/girls night. I always just looked at this rewarding night as if it was a major goal but something definitely out of my reach. Not that it wasn’t deserved or much needed but I saw it as something that I would just be able to enjoy some day.
So what was the paradigm shift? What made me decide that it was time to start treating myself? I can proudly say that the motivation came from listening to a lot of personal development, Jesus, podcasts, blogs and books. When I started grasping that life is in session..a light bulb went off and I started thinking to myself that I truly deserved some down time. My cup is always pouring into everyone and everything and yet I am the one riding on the back row of the struggle bus. I needed a time where I could relax and re-charge with a few friends, eat a dinner that I didn’t prepare, where I could eat with both of my hands( if you’re a mom, you totally feel this..) and not have to constantly argue with a tiny army that I created to sit down, be quiet, eat their food and wipe ketchup off their face. I do have a few adult friends who get a little messy but on nights like this, you are on your own, sister! I kid, I kid…maybe.
What’s even better about committing to this girls night? Your husband will have a new found respect and appreciation for you. He will see, ten fold, what you do on the daily. This speaks heights for all of my stay at home mama’s out there. He will see first hand all of the things that you put up with, all of the things that you do, are and how gracefully swift you rock this motherhood gig. Even though on even the best of days, it probably doesn’t feel like that. Let’s be real for a sec, motherhood, while it is so undeniably fulfilling in every facet of itself, it can be so overwhelming and exhausting.
So now, I prioritize this night. Sometimes it’s super last minute and other times, I plan days or weeks in advance. The first month, we decided to go eat boiled crawfish because, well..I’m a swamp queen and that’s what us swamp queens do. The next month, we decided about two hours in advance to meet at a bar and have a few drinks to unwind. And this month, I decided to host a movie night featuring the one and only, Rachel Hollis with her new movie, Made for More. Because, let’s face it ladies, WE WERE MADE FOR MORE!!!
Every girls night is different and different women are there every time but that’s the beauty of it. No hard feelings, no strings attached..just an evening for everyone to unwind and refill their cup so we can continue to give so freely like we all always do. I think the hardest concept I’ve had to work through is that it’s okay for me to do this. It’s okay to refuel. It’s okay to refresh yourself and remember who you were before you became a mommy. But since I’ve started, I have had a much easier time doing all the things. I can wife better, mom better, work my business better, friend better and even sweep my dang floors with a little pep in my step.
We as moms deserve this time. Make an effort to make it a priority. You won’t regret it.
It’s no secret that I am a thirty something year old mama. I’ve literally been pregnant and/or breastfeeding for the last five years, even though it feels like it’s been longer than that. Before that, my youth consisted of basically getting all of the sleep and sun-kissed skin that I am certainly missing out on now. Did you even live in the 2000’s if you didn’t pay monthly fees to live in the tanning beds? Were you even doing it right if you didn’t have the little kissy lips , heart or a playboy bunny tan line along your panty line? Let’s not forget about all of those tanning accelerators that made you feel like your skin was going to explode at any moment. I can’t count how many times I nearly baked myself to death in a tanning bed or laying pool side. Being tan was in and what can I say..I was with the times.
Being a mama to two little angels who have each nursed for almost two years each and also hate sleep, being 30 and only in the last few years taken up on a good skincare routine have all caught up with me. While I am happy with my skin and over all appearance, I sometimes find myself looking like I feel. Tired and worn out…kinda like the perfect baseball glove but not exactly the look I’m going for or at all really.
Some of you may know this but you are super limited to the things you are allowed to do while pregnant or breastfeeding. I’ve been restricted on what all I could do, use and take for forever..until a few weeks ago when I finally got my two year old to stop nursing. Que the hallelujah choir! To celebrate not breastfeeding anymore, I contacted an old friend of mine who works at Laser SkinCare of Louisiana. I wasn’t exactly sure what I wanted to do or what my skin really needed so I sent her a few pictures of my skin and let her decide what I could benefit from the most.
We landed on a procedure called an IPL which is Intense Pulsed Light or also known as a photo-facial. It’s a type of light therapy that’s used for treating and tightening wrinkles or fine lines, sun damage, skin pigmentation, freckles, birth marks, varicose veins and age spots. With each pulse, a bright light passes through the uppermost layer of skin called the epidermis. It draws out the pigment producing cells and disperses the uneven pigment. This procedure can be done anywhere on the body but is most popularly done on the face. It’s gentle yet effective and a long-lasting solution with zero down time.
I was SO excited to try this procedure. Like I said, I’ve developed a lot of freckling over the years from sun damage and least we forget that being pregnant can sometimes lead to developing hyper-pigmentation or “pregnancy mask.” And then Jessica introduced me to this little machine called a Visia. It captures multi-spectral photos of your face. It examines your complexion for enlarged pores, fine lines, wrinkles, rough texture, evidence of bacteria, UV spots from overexposure to the sun and pigment changes in the skin. This sorcery completely blew my mind!
I set my face inside of the Visia, it rotated around my face and began taking photos. When I looked at the screen on the side I was in complete awe at the amount of damage I have on my skin! But sadly, I believed it. Like I said, I knew I didn’t take the best care of my skin for the longest time.
From this point, we moved to the treatment room where I’d be doing the IPL. The treatment bed was super comfortable, I think they actually call it the “Cadillac.” Jessica began by cleansing my skin and prepping it with ultrasound gel for the procedure. I was actually pretty nervous that this was going to hurt but it honestly wasn’t bad at all. No worse than being lightly popped with a rubber band and even that’s over exaggerating.
We focused on my more prominent freckles for my first appointment. Sometimes it only takes 1-2 treatments and other times it needs more than that to eliminate all of the damage. It really just depends on your skin and the frequency used on the machine.
Over the past week I have watched a few places on my face develop into darker spots and begin to simply flake off. Some spots are still a little dark after seven days but I’m confident they’ll be following suit in the days to come. I’ve also noticed that my complexion is brighter and more even in general!
Photo on the left is the first morning after the procedure. Photo on the right is seven days after procedure.
Laser SkinCare of Louisiana offers a variety of procedures and treatments. Dr. Duplechain and his amazing staff are driven towards providing you with only the best of services and helping you fall in love with the skin you’re in. Call today(337-237-1116) to get started and ask about the special of the month that I received or upcoming specials!
Disclosure: This post is sponsored by the office of Dr. J. Kevin Duplechain
There, I said it. The first step is admitting it right? For those of you that know me really well, you know that I am a true product junkie. You name it, more than likely I have used it at some point or another. I even held a VIB Rouge status once upon a time at Sephora. Am I proud of that? I don’t know..maybe; I’ll never tell. While I have been a Beauty Guide for LimeLife by Alcone for a little over two years now, I still have a few other brands that carry items that I like to call “must-haves” and I will be sharing those as well as my favorite LimeLife products. Don’t use skincare or makeup? Don’t click off of here too soon, this isn’t just about those two things. I’m going to tell you about what products I love, what they do and where you can find them.
This is in no way sponsered or organized by Sephora, LimeLife by Alcone, Jentry Kelley Cosmetics, Wella, Peter Thomas Roth, Kristen Ess or Target. This is just a short list of some of my favorites and my reviews; ENJOY!
If you would like to try any LimeLife By Alcone products you can reach me via the Get In Touch button at the top of the page or get in touch with your favorite beauty guide to start learning about all of the amazing products!
But first, skin care.
It’s going to be hard not to name every single product I love so I will try to keep this short and sweet.
One of the first products that I absolutely cannot live without is the Peter Thomas Roth FIRMX Peeling Gel. This is a Sephora find from years ago. It’s good for all skin types; it removes and sweeps away the dead skin on your face. You can literally feel the dead skin lifting from your face as you manually exfoliate. I typically use this once or twice a month because I still like to use Bamboo Renew or Skin Polish by LimeLife in between. And least we forget, I like to shave my face too. Between all of this, my face is smoother than my kids booties.
My next skincare favorite is without at doubt, One Drop Wonder by LimeLife by Alcone. It’s made from 100% cold pressed pomifera oil and is exclusive to LimeLife as a skincare product. It’s chemical free, UV protective, high in anti-oxidants and Omega-6. This product is good for so many things:
Anti-bacterial, Anti-fungal, Anti-microbial and Anti-viral
Helps with skin ailments such as eczema, rosacea, acne, psoriasis, dermatitis, spider veins, varicose veins, bruising, stretch marks, blisters, cold sores, staph, shingles, ulcers, bug bites, cuts, burns, diaper rash, scars, sun spots and more.
Not only do I love it for my skin but I love it for the girls too. My oldest daughter is super sensitive to mosquito bites and this is the only product that actually works in healing them and quickly. Add Forty Cure Cream to the mix and you’ve got a magical concoction.
The last set of products I will list here are from the new Midnight Oil Collection. It’s a cleanser and a serum by LimeLife as well and its antioxidant-rich with Marula Oil and Millet Seed extract (yes, I know; I’m rattling your head off about LimeLife…but it’s SO GOOD y’all!) These two products work together to heal and improve your skins radiance and illuminate your complexion while you sleep.
I was super skeptical of, specifically, the cleanser at first when I started using these. I’ve always used a cleanser that’s sudsy my entire life so there was definitely a mental barrier there telling me this just wasn’t going to do the job. What I really should have done was take some before, during and after photos of my skin to monitor changes because within a few short weeks of using this collection along with my other skincare routine, I started getting compliments everywhere I turned! People were telling me that my skin was glowing and my complexion looked so good! Best part? I didn’t have makeup on. My own opinion of myself without make up is that I look somewhere between the Crypt Keeper and a Billy Goat so this has been a huge confidence boost that all these people were giving me. And this set of products were my only change up!
Let your hair do the talking.
I have quite a few hair favorites and to be honest, I’m not really sure where to begin! Perhaps I should start off with my hair type because, obviously, I don’t want you to run straight to the store or the world wide web and start shopping for the same things I love if they’re not going to work for your hair type. My hair is crazy curly, wavy and has frizz ball tendencies. I have a medium type hair texture, which means it’s not fine but it’s not coarse either. It’s riiiight in between the two. It’s relatively healthy also. While I still color it, I don’t bleach very often, I’ve kind of grown fond of my dark roots.
One of my favorite hair products is the Wella Elements Leave In Conditioning Spray. Not only does it smell amazing but its basically formulated with the same milk and honey that flows in the Heavens. Directly from the Wella website, it’s a paraben free leave in dual-phase spray that cares and protects hair from day to day stress and delivers a gentle hold. I LOVE this product because it smooths my hair out and makes it super easy to de-tangle mine and my girls crazy curly hair. It’s not heavy either! Win/Win! You can find this on Amazon or you can probably ask you hairstylist to order some for you!
Next, I love the Kristen Ess line from Target. My hairstylist friends are now rolling their eyes at me, I can feel it. Specifically, I love the Reviving Dry Shampoo and the Dry Finish Working Texture Spray. The Dry Shampoo features a translucent powder base and is infused with vitamin c. It’s not overly heavy but it definitely does the job and is not a bad price point either. The texture spray is exactly that but it’s not the kind that gives a hard or sticky hold. It’s very light but effective! I always use the texture spray after I curl my hair and without fail, it always looks amazing! One of the other reasons why I like this line, it’s very affordable when your budget is tight! Even the shampoo and conditioner work really well!
Makeup is art. Beauty is spirit.
This is probably my favorite part of this entire write up. Makeup is my life y’all. People think it’s just because I’m girly and I like girly things. What they don’t know is that makeup is an outlet for me. For years, it’s been a way to hide how I really felt inside. If nobody could see in, if I could cover up my past and my insecurities and raw emotions with a little concealer and lipstick, if I could avoid people asking me if I was okay or feeling well..then my makeup did it’s job for the day. I used makeup as an art source to conceal all of my deepest and darkest feelings.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I have worked through my troubles and I don’t actually wear makeup everyday anymore. It’s been a long process of self development and learning how to love myself and my life that has truly transformed me. I’m not afraid to let people see the real me, flaws and all. The other way was just as exhausting as depression was so I encourage you, if you are on the same road as I was, please..please work on yourself. You won’t regret it. Makeup is a beautiful tool to conceal those inner and outer flaws but if you can tackle and concur those things, your beauty will be more than just a mask.
One of the first products I want to go over is foundation. If it’s on the market, I have probably used it. Powders, cremes, liquids, sticks, cc’s & bb’s as well as tinted moisturizers. All brands, from drug stores to high end department stores. There are several out there that are really, really good. But the true test of it all was in the hot summer heat in Louisiana. If you’re from here or have been here you know that the kind of hot we have doesn’t just stop at temperature. You know that the kind of heat we have is the kind where as soon as you walk outside, you are immediately pitting and sweating from every God given surface and crease of your body. It’s not a dry hot, it’s a wet hot. Have you ever been in a steam room? That’s Louisiana. You MELT. So despite all of these foundations being good or high end, they would melt too! By lunch(actually before..), I would look like a fresh bowl of queso at my favorite restaurant. And the same would apply to my models or clients who had to be out in the heat too, despite primers or setting powders or sprays. I’m one particular companies only trusted hair and makeup artist and every summer, we do shoots in New Orleans. Every single year, I was constantly touching up the models makeup because she would literally be dripping all over The Big Easy. It was super frustrating. I like to think that I can do amazing work but its hard to showcase it when your tools don’t perform as they promise in weather conditions hotter than hades. When I decided to join LimeLife, it had everything to do with the foundation. It’s a wax based, paraben free and highly pigmented foundation and truly sets and stays in place with the help of the primer and setting products. The following year for that photo shoot, I told the owner I was switching up my entire makeup line and using all LimeLife. I think he was super skeptical and nervous just because it’s a change and obviously, the makeup REALLY matters. But y’all, my models makeup never melted. She sweated but her makeup never moved. We were in abandoned warehouses with no air conditioning in the middle of the summer and the only time I had to touch up the makeup was when we changed lip colors. If that doesn’t speak heights, I don’t know what does.
LimeLife’s Foundation is the bees knees, hands down. It’s waxed based, highly pigmented and paraben free. It’s build-able also. You can use a little and get light coverage and you can build on top of that to achieve full coverage. You can even mix it with some Dew Date or Skin Therapy moisturizers and transform it into a tinted moisturizer or bb cream. Pair the foundation with their Primer, Translucent Powder and Setting Spray and your base face is bullet proof!
One of my next favorites is by Jentry Kelley Cosmetics. I had the opportunity to meet her once a few years ago. She is so beautiful, inspiring and hilarious. She’s out of Houston, Texas so if you ever find yourself needing a makeover while you’re in the area, be sure to reach out to her office to schedule an appointment. She and her team of gorgeous women will get you set up. You won’t be disappointed! She has formulated and created a full line of some of the highest quality makeup and skin care products also! One product in particular that I love from her line is the Brow Lift-Light. I love this stuff because it highlights matte under the brow to give off a natural look. It will really help illuminate if you want to use a light shimmery eye shadow as well. This product is to be applied to the outer 2/3 of the underside of the brow area to give the illusion of a brow lift. I love this stuff! Not to mention, a little goes a long way so this little product lasts forever. Side note- if you ever decide to check out her book, Hooker to Looker, you will find a photo of me in there that I submitted as a makeup fail before I really knew what I was doing…facepalm. We all start somewhere!
Lastly, the holy grail of lipsticks..the Enduring Lip Colors. I’ve used multiple brand name dry matte lipsticks and none of them stay as good as these. The color pay off is unreal and they don’t make your lips appear or feel chapped. I know you know what I mean when I say that. They apply buttery and cure into a matte finish. If you want to speed up the process you can dust some translucent powder on top of them and voila, it’s cured! I used to be all about a moisturizing lipstick that felt like a chap-stick on my lips but I guess turning into a mama of two, I don’t have all the time in the world to keep re-touching my lips all day so running to one of the Enduring Lip Colors or Liners has turned into my new jam. After all, I love easy!